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Newsletter ​February 2024

Has sadness paid you a visit this month too?

As an eternal optimist and self-proclaimed president of the Positive Patty Club, I always get a little anxious when I find myself feeling a little less positive than usual. Optimism is my factory setting so when I don't have any sunshine juice in my tank, my body immediately goes on alert, nervously trying to figure out "yo, what TF is wrong with me?!"

In the past I would:

• bury myself in my business or a new offer to avoid feeling "down"
• intellectualize my healing to avoid my actual emotions
• numb out with edibles
• hit up toxic friends or lovers as a distraction because I didn't know how to self-sooth
• zone out scrolling on social or bing watch the latest popular tv series
• eat everything I could get my hands on in one sitting to avoid feeling at all cost

I know better now, so when I recently found myself feeling a sense of sadness I couldn't quite put my finger on, instead of resorting to my old programming I've just been riding the waves of what's lovingly rising to the surface without needing to immediately label, dissect, or fix a damn thing.

For years, I've been convincing myself that I don't experience sadness but after allowing myself to just sit with what is I'm slowly realizing that that's actually not true. The truth is, I've never allowed myself to feel sad OR my sadness was always masked by a much bigger emotion that took precedent like anger, disappointment, or grief. But feeling just plain 'ol sad - nope.

When you spend the majority of your life trying to distance yourself from your emotional needs so that you can equip yourself to survive the neglectful environment you grew up in, sadness is not a feeling you willingly embrace. My survival literally depended on putting my feelings on the back burner, care taking for the emotions of others over mine and pushing through. Optimism, creativity and my vivid imagination were my coping mechanisms and the tools I used to dream a new reality. Avoiding my difficult feelings was all I knew, until I woke up out the matrix, started healing and became more conscious.

Getting Comfortable with Discomfort

On some real ish, even the most optimistic and positive people experience moments of sadness, despair or feeling "blue" sometimes. As the Positive Patty club president, I know how challenging it can be when gloominess comes to visit even us sunny folks so I put together some tips to offer some perspective from one positive thinker to another on how to mindfully embrace sadness or difficult feelings when they wash over you. 🥺😢

A Modern Spiritual Community Created Just for You

Spiritual communities are game-changers when it comes to having the support you need to navigate challenging times. The wisdom and value found within these intimate spaces are truly priceless. I'm convinced healing happens both in periods of isolation and in community!

This deep knowing along with some not so very gentle nudges from my guides inspired me to create the Vecina Network, a modern spiritual community rooted in tradition and divine liberation. I'm so excited to build out an extensive content library of all of my teachings and tools and bring together like-minded women ready to transcend all matrix programming keeping them from experiencing true freedom and liberation.

This already feels like its going to be an archive of my life's work. I look forward to using my gifts to create deep impact within the collective for those that are ready. There is no doubt that this is what I came here to do. Nothing lights me up more than helping black and brown women translate lofty spiritual concepts into grounded self-care and spiritual practices so they can embody higher consciousness through daily integration. 🫶🏾

I recently shared on IG that I will be less active on social so that I can focus on the network and tapping back into my creatress in 2024. If you want to be part of this intimate experience, click here to join the network. Doors close on March 19th 🌺

My Latest Videos

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🎙️ New Season: Work Your Magic Podcast ​

✨ What is the Vecina Network? ​

🎥 VLOG: Rooted Visionary Experience ​

What I Watched

​American Fiction - An incredibly smart Drama/Comedy that highlights the well-intentioned white wokeness that still manages to reduce Black people to stereotypes and tokens. I really enjoyed the depth of these characters and how real they were as well as how they depicted grown ass people dating and adult relationships. And yes to the amazing use of comedy to make powerful points rooted in truth without holding back. Lastly, the cast was brilliant (Jeffrey Wright, Tracee Ellis Ross, Issa Rae, Sterling K. Brown, John Ortiz, Erika Alexander) and I hope they take home all the wins during award season. Must watch!

What I Read

Y'all know I'm forever adding some new books to my shelves. I need to get a library card at this point. Anyway, here's what I'm currently reading:

I've actually been sitting deeply with this book since last fall and encourage you to do the same. Read it slowly. Take your time. Bonus points if this book induces naps for you while reading it. That's literally the point and I love that Tricia intended for that to happen!

Personal Highlights:

I trust myself more than I trust capitalism.

A portal opens when we slow down. You can rest.

I don't want a seat at the table of the oppressor. I want a blanket and pillow down by the ocean. I want to rest.

Rest is anything that slows you down enough to connect with your body and mind.

When you are exhausted, you lack clarity and the ability to see deeply. Your intuition and imagination are stifled by a culture of overworking and disconnection.

We didn't arrive on earth to be a tool for a capitalist system. It is not our divine purpose. You were not born to center your entire existence on work and labor. You were born to heal, to grow, to be of service to yourself and your community, to practice, to experiment, to create, to have space, to dream and to connect.

Capitalism is new and our bodies are ancient. Grind culture has created a bunch of exhausted, disconnected and traumatized people moving through life, unable to tap into their true power. We need rest to connect back to ourselves and dream. We will rest!

What I'm Learning

I started my Foundational Herbal Apprenticeship this month and will be meeting up with my class this weekend to learn the basics of seeding, plant my own seedlings, and how to propagate Elderberries. I'll be sure to share some pics and what I'm learning in upcoming newsletters as I train to become a Community Herbalist.

Thank you so much for taking time out of your day to connect with me! Hope you enjoyed this months's newsletter. Feel free to reply if you have any questions or comments.

Blessings,

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